The One With the Unexpected Change


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Sometimes change is expected. Sometimes it is welcomed. Sometimes it is unexpected. Sometimes it is not welcomed.

I have always struggled with making the decision to change my life. Maybe that’s why it is in some higher up’s plan to make those changes happen for me. And not on my terms.

My position was eliminated last week for realignment of budget. I wasn’t expecting it at all.  I’m obviously not thrilled about being back to job searching full time.

But I’m making the best of the situation. I’m really looking at what I want out of my life, my career and so on.  Public service type jobs have always been my true calling. I thought after the last budget cut I needed to escape them, for better stability, but maybe I don’t.

Truly I don’t know what’s next. I’m open to exploring all of the opportunities and I’m learning what I don’t want. I’m seeing what is out there and going with the flow.  I’m growing. And I know at the end of this obstacle, I’ll learn yet again that there was a blessing in disguise and a lesson in this challenge.

That doesn’t mean the challenge is welcomed or rejoiced. But I’ve learned that it is best to find the positive in every obstacle brought my way. And goodness gracious I’ve had my share of obstacles. I like to think that I get all these obstacles because God or some higher being knows that I can handle them with grace and dignity and come out stronger.

“What doesn’t kill you, only makes you blonder.” – Miranda Lambert

Well I won’t technically be going blonder yet, but I think I’ll get stronger and when I have news to celebrate perhaps I’ll celebrate by going blonder!

What I’m listening to:

Riser by Dierks Bentley

Stilettos by Kelsea Ballerini

Comeback Kid by Kip Moore

Pinterest Projects Galore: DIY Storage Bed & DIY Desk


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With the upcoming move I’ve been on a Pinterest binge trying to determine how to best organize my room and the office space. And I’ve decided two things…I want to make a “captain’s bed frame” for myself and I want to do a DIY desk.

For the bed I’m leaning toward cubbies instead of drawers. This is the design I like the best right now:

bed plan

This photo comes from Stop Staring and Start Sewing, blog by Jona Giammalva – It links back to their blog post about creating this bed which is the same blog post I link to when discussing bed plans.

I found this design via Pinterest, but it is originally from Jona Giammalva’s blog Stop Staring and Start Sewing.  So far it is one of the easiest plans I’ve found which is why I plan to follow it as of now.  You can find her blog post by clicking on the photo or here:

I’m really nervous about taking on this project by myself. But am hoping some of my friends, especially guy friends that are better with a saw or at least more experienced with a saw will help me.  First of course I have to make sure I could fit an upgrade to a queen size bed in my new room which is much smaller than my current room. If I’m not upgrading to a queen size I don’t know that I’ll do a new bed frame.

This is the desk I’m planning on creating as of now for our bonus office/craft space:

This desk plan & photo is from Lindsay Stephenson's blog.

This desk plan & photo is from Lindsay Stephenson’s blog.

I don’t know if I’ll do 3 pieces of wood like they did or try to find something a little easier to do, but I like the idea of storage to hold it up and like the idea of two spaces one for the laptop/plain crafting or even a desktop and the other space could be for a sewing machine once I get my own.

I have tons of other DIY ideas to utilize within my new spaces that I’ll have to make the most of them. I cannot wait until the move so I can start with these bigger projects! Until then I’m continuing to weigh different plan options and look into other storage ways that I can incorporate into my bedroom and the office space.

One thing I’m really looking to figure out is boot storage. I have the boot holders from Container store where 4 pairs fit on it upside down, but with 6 pairs of cowboy boots along with my riding, winter, snow and rain boots I want something prettier for my cowboy boots at least. And yes I do have a boot problem, I know.

My pinterest boards for the move:

Itchin’ for New Ink: Follow Your Arrow


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I’ve had plans for another tattoo pretty much since the day I finally got my first one almost 4 years ago.  I still want that tattoo that I thought would be my 2nd, but I actually have decided to get a different one first.

Two songs spoke to my heart strongly when I was playing with the idea of leaving Sodak. The songs spoke even stronger when the decision to leave was forced on me through a blessing in disguise, budget cuts at my former employer.

The two songs “Compass” and “Follow Your Arrow” share a common thread. Go where your heart leads you. As “Compass” says: “So let your heart, sweet heart; Be your compass when you’re lost; And you should follow it wherever it may go.” And as “Follow Your Arrow” says “Just follow your arrow, Wherever it points, yeah, Follow your arrow, Wherever it points.”

I took on the meaning of both songs to heart for they spoke what I couldn’t always explain to my friends and family during a trying obstacle. In fact I actually remmber listening to “Follow Your Arrow” the day I found out about my position being cut to PT. I already had MN in my eyes for my new home before that news came.  But I didn’t have a timeline or plan to leave my position in place…I just knew MN was in my future at some point.

Well with partial then complete closing of my door at PP I chose to take “Follow Your Arrow” on as my new mantra and did just that as I took a leap of faith and moved to Minnesota.  And now it is time to make that mantra a part of me, just like the name of this blog is a part of me. Not everyone chooses to ink their life mantras to themselves, but for me it is part of me to the point it needs to be part of my canvas.

The exact design is still in the works and I may even just go spur of the moment with it. But the meaning it holds for me was secured many months ago.  I can’t wait to show off this latest addition to the canvas of my life, my body soon. Hopefully very soon.  I’ve been wanting it for a while, but life and budget had pushed it back. However I’ve managed to fit it into my budget by cutting back on my summer concert schedule. A decision that wasn’t easy to make if you know me.


I don’t love this font or this layout, but the arrow design I do dig. I’m thinking diagonal arrows. Still back and forth on color or black & white since I do tend to have a nice summer tan and color fades faster.

Have no fear, I’ll be sharing the final once I have it done!

30 by 30…the countdown is on!



My 30th birthday is 281 days away.  Meaning that my 30 by 30 list is on a countdown. However, I may give myself until the end of my 30th year in hopes of getting a few more items on this list done. I probably won’t get them all done, but I do want to make another push to try some of these new activities I’ve always wanted to do!

That list is:

30 things I want to do by my 30th birthday:

  1. Get a tattoo (Actually getting my 2nd one this summer!)
  2. Run a 5K
  3. Learn how to shoot a gun & go hunting
  4. Go skydiving
  5. Finish the first draft of my first novel
  6. Learn how to keep my bedroom clean & organized (I have my days…)
  7. Run a 10K
  8. Travel abroad
  9. Learn how to cook more options and become a better baker.
  10. Learn how to surf
  11. Learn to jump on horseback
  12. Go horseback riding on the beach
  13. Learn to snorkel/scuba dive
  14. Go white water rafting
  15. Ride in a hot air balloon
  16. Ride a mechanical bull (and stay on for at least 4 seconds)
  17. Learn how to drive a motorcycle(get my license.)
  18. Go rock climbing (I’ve done the walls, but never experienced the real deal!)
  19. Swim with dolphins
  20. See the Empire State Building
  21. Become a morning person (I have my days…)
  22.  Make a difference in someone’s life (I like to hope I’ve already done this, but will still strive for it.)
  23.  Give back to Shriner’s Hospital for Children in Minneapolis, MN in some form (ongoing as a Patient Ambassador and donor)
  24.  Complete NaNoWriMo (not happening this year, sadly)
  25.  Become involved in Suicide Prevention in honor of Adam & all the others I’ve known
  26. Go to a professional sporting event for a sport for the first time (NBA, WNBA, NHL, NASCAR, ATP)
  27.  Promote more research into genetic causes behind bilateral talipes equinovarus.
  28.  Prove my doctors wrong about being in a wheelchair (Was told I’d be in a wheelchair by 30…)
  29.  Turn my passions into a career
  30. Fall in Love ( I know I can’t truly put a timeline on this)

So who wants to take on one of these items with me?

2015 New Years Letter Announcement

I think most of my New Years letters have now hit mailboxes and thus I’m finally officially announcing some news. Many have figured it out already since I updated my employment status on LinkedIn and Facebook, but I am now the Digital Marketing Associate for Sightpath Medical in a full time role.  I moved into this role on January 19th and the last two weeks have been beyond awesome.  I absolutely love working at Sightpath and was waiting and hoping for this opportunity to move from a part time contract role to a full time role.

Now for those of you that weren’t on my mailing list, I still wanted to share the full extent of what I sent out!

My photo card:


My letter:


And last, but certainly not least being the music person that I am and wanting to have some fun I decided to take my country girl spin on the Fresh Prince theme song!


My take on the Fresh Prince theme song!

2015 New Year’s Resolutions: 15 ways to strive to be a better me and live life up


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It’s that time of year, well a few days late at that, but it is New Year’s Resolutions time. I know many people against making resolutions, some for making them and others who just don’t care.  I used to be in the latter. But a few years ago I started making and achieving a portion of them and realizing that writing a post allowed me to be held accountable and motivated. I still won’t say that I’ll achieve all of them. In fact I prefer to say these are things I want to strive for then achieve because life is a constant journey so 1 year isn’t always the end date on these goals/resolutions. These are ways I can strive to be a better me and live life up.

  1. I’ve been Diet Coke free for almost three years and fast food free (except Subway) for over 2 years, but the gym thing hasn’t stuck.  Of course my hip injury, surgery and losing ground on my rehab all play into that, but enough excuses. My 1st resolution that I’m striving for is to rebuild my hip strength and find an exercise schedule that I can stick to without overdoing it, but while continuing to improve my hip strength and endurance. This won’t be starting at a gym. Time to start back with my rehab exercises and ankle weights for a few weeks before I attempt the gym.
  2. Blog more. Write more. I say this every year and every year it comes and goes in spurts. This year I want to be consistent. I’ll never be a post every single day person, but with my hashtag a day book I’ll have content that I can do a year end recap on if I ever desire.  However I do strive to post at least monthly to my blogs. And to try to do some other writing as well.
  3. Read more.  I LOVE reading. You know those nerdy kids that hid flashlights & books under their pillows to read after bedtime? Yep, that was me! And that was after they took away my reading light for a while because I’d stay up all night reading.  I can’t tell you how many times I’d get in trouble in class when we were taking turns reading because I didn’t know where we were because instead of paying attention I had been reading ahead.  And the list of books I’ve finished in one sitting is quite long. All that said the last year I can hardly remember reading. I’m not sure why, but that’s going to change.
  4. Be kinder to others and myself. I’m often my biggest enemy. I want to strive to be kinder, nicer, and there for people around me regardless of if I know them or not. I strive to be more willing to forgive myself. Willing to believe in myself. Willing to be fine with myself just the way I am.
  5. Get out more. For fun. For networking. For whatever. Just get out more.
  6. Help others (MOTHER) realize that all that matters is happiness. I love my life. Now if only my family and friends could quit caring when I’m going to get married and have kids and just be happy, I’m happy.  Would I like to find a partner in crime eventually? Yes! But I’m not stressing about when it will happen.  I get to do what I want, when I want, so why would I stress? Do I get bored sometimes? Yes. But am I lonely? Hell no. If I can’t make her realize this, then this turns into learning to tune anyone that feels the need to ask why I’m single or comment on it out automatically.
  7. Do a RAOK at least once a month. Always participate in paying it forward. Say thank you more, for the little things. Show constant appreciation.
  8. Love loudly. Be that my coffee, a song, boots, dogs, my family & friends or should I find a partner in crime. Show my love for everything I love, loudly.  Remember to tell those that mean the most to me; that they do. Life is far too short to worry someone doesn’t know how you feel.
  9. Live my life to the fullest. Take every opportunity I can. Take chances. Take leaps of faith.  Live life out loud. Stop sitting on the sidelines.
  10. Listen to music more.  Step outside of my boundaries some. Embrace my favorites.  Listen to it at home, at the gym, in the car, at work and especially listen to it live. Music has always been one of my true loves…I need to remember to turn to it more.
  11.  Strive to become more organized organized and less chaos organized. This is a lifelong battle of mine when it comes to my mind, my email, my to do list and especially my bedroom.
  12.  Attempt to try new foods and healthier foods. I’m always going to be picky, but at least trying new things is important.
  13.  Continue to grow my volunteer experience and find ways to give back to the causes and organizations that mean the most to me, that have shaped me into the person I am, and find ways to do so while utilizing and growing my own talents.
  14.  More me time. Hot baths. Reading. Writing. Working out. Crafting. More time to enjoy myself and let the stress of life go.
  15. But most of all remember that simply because I don’t fulfill a resolution or goal that it doesn’t define me. I can define myself and failures and obstacles only make me stronger as long as I allow myself to learn from them.

2014 in Review



2014. What a year.

I rang 2014 in with some of my favorite people. My MN crew which has become my MN fam.  I couldn’t have picked a better group of people to ring in 2014 and ring it out.


4 mailing addresses

Hundreds (if not a thousand) job applications

75 or so interviews

2 job offers

2 part time jobs

1 freelancing gig

3 Twins games

1 Wild game

1 Timberwolves game

1 ridiculously fun, but kinda chilly cabin weekend with my MN crew

1 trip to Texas

3 trips back to Pierre post move

3 trips to Sioux Falls/Mitchell post move

~16 nights of live country music

2 short visits from my parents

2 nights with the best entertainer, Garth Brooks

2 amazing roommates (not at the same time) well technically 3 if you count that I didn’t move out of Bets until Jan 4th or so.

Too many laughs, fun nights, and memories to count.

2014 might not have looked exactly like I imagined, but it was still damn good.

Now here’s to 2015 being even better. I have two very strong reasons why it will be that will be announced in the coming weeks!

6 Years Later: Time to Erase the Stigma

6 years.  Sometimes it feels like yesterday. Other times it feels more like twenty years.

It was 6 years ago that a very good friend took his own life.

Like most say, Adam was the one person that I never thought would do that.

But the thing is there’s no real way to know if someone would or wouldn’t.

Hell it is hard to even know if someone is dealing with mental health or depression.

Our society has created such a negative stigma where people fear admitting it.

They fear reaching out for the help they need.

We must work together to erase the stigma.

Depression hurts. Suicide hurts.  Mental health hurts.

Let’s work together to stop the hurting. To find ways to cope. To make society a better place where we can truly be who we are even if that means admitting that we need help. Admitting that we are hurting. Admitting that we are struggling.

Erasing the stigma can start with me and you. With how we word and phrase things. With how we put interact on social media & the web. With how we allow ourselves to truly be there and support others when needed.

RIP Adam Cole Maberry. I still miss you so much, but I strive to continue to use your suicide to help others.

So You’re Dating a Communications Major or Communications Professional….


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As someone who has their Master in Communication Studies and works in communications daily I’ve come to realize that communication or lack thereof makes me about 10,000X more insane than the average person.  I literally apply the communication theories I learned in graduate school to my life daily. Especially to my dating life, well attempts at having a dating life I should say.

So here’s some tips if you’re dating or thinking about dating a communications person: (In reality I think that a lot of these would apply to dating most females…I can’t speak for the men)

  • If you’re interested in the other person try to show interest in the conversation even if you hate texting or whatever format of conversing is being used.
  • Ask questions.
  • Take interest.
  • Continue the conversation.
  • Respond in a reasonable amount of time. If you cannot fully respond let the person know you can’t talk now, but will respond later.
  • Be honest with the person about your feelings on communicating via various formats.
  • Find ways to communicate that meet your own level of comfort. Relay your levels of comfort on communication and formats of communication to the person from the get go.
  • If you decide you aren’t interested in pursuing a relationship with the person tell them.
    • They say that silence hurts more than hateful words. I fully agree with this.
    • Communications people will analyze and then over analyze why you aren’t talking to them until they make themselves sick.

These simple tips will go a long ways when it comes to dating someone who has a strong emphasis on communication. Above all the most important thing in dating anyone is honesty.  Always be honest with them and yourself.

I’m Back….

I’ve been MIA from this blog for a while, but I’m back.  And you can also find me writing on my country music blog at! It didn’t quite hit me how much I’ve missed blogging until this last week. Blogging has and always will be my self-therapy when going through life’s hurdles.

A lot has changed since February. I’m working two jobs, living in the SE suburb of South St. Paul with my best friend, Megan; and I’m truly living and loving life as a Minnesotan to the fullest.  Yep, I’m officially a Minnesotan…well still technically waiting on that license in the mail, but my plates on my car and my yellow papers prove it!

More to come….


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